deployment

NCheyGirl21 · 02-14-2008, 10:45 AM

I haven't been on here in a while and I know a while back I reintroduced myself under the introductions area. Here's the post, Re-Introducing Myself

Anyways, my DH just got deployed to Iraq end of last month so we both could really use some prayers. Were both very young and its been a little hard on us and it hasn't even been a month yet.

I'm home in Michigan right now with my family so I been gettin alotta support from them which has been great. So if you could that would be really nice!

**50cal** · 02-14-2008, 05:39 PM

you know what, stay busy, occupy yourself with anything....find a job, throw yourself into your kids (if you have any).......don't think too much about it.....don't pay attention to the news, that is the most depressing thing you can do.....email him every day.....write him letters, send beef jerky and hot sauce (tapatio).....just remain occupied and supportive....theres gonna be a lot of idiots out there whos gonna say stuff about the war and the troops that will piss you off, don't listen to them...most of them are just talking to hear themselves talk, they know nothgin of what it's like there.....and most of all, know that you have a part of the Marine Corps family here with you.....keep your head up!!!!

**50cal** · 02-14-2008, 05:44 PM

what unit does he belong to???...what's his MOS????....as you can see from logo, I was 3rd Battalion, 7th Marines.....I was in Lima Co.....did my time in the infantry.....best 5 years of my life.....I also am thinking of going back in as a retread....see what happens, bad thing is I am disabled from the war....so hopefully I can get a waiver or something....I sure do miss it....I really don't care much for civilian life....LOL!!!

**Josiah** · 02-14-2008, 05:46 PM

Ditto what 50cal said
Write often and everyday
You will not believe how much that matters to someone that is deployed
And dont worry if they are not exciting and flowing of love
Write journals about your day what your doing where you ate
Whats on TV
Anything and everything
But DONT watch the NEWS
Its full of crap anyway and will only make you anxious worry

Find a Hobby
Work
Keep busy

And before you know it he will be home!

NCheyGirl21 · 02-14-2008, 06:55 PM

Thanks ya'll. This has really helped me. I can tell ya one thing since my husband has left I haven't been able to watch the news about having to do with the war. I have been keeping myself busy also, I sell avon from home and I watch my cousin's toddler durin the middle of the week. It has helped keep my mind occuppied. I do know about the idiots though, there has already been 3 people talk s*** to me about the war and my husband. Sometimes it just gets hard on me and specially him because were both in our 20s, but we are managing.

**Eagle Plumes** · 02-14-2008, 07:03 PM

much love to you and we are proud of our soldiers! to hec with anybody who say's different! I was a Army wife I know how the not watching the news can be, one week before we were married he got a call and he told me last time he got one of those he was gone for a while then I smiled and said ok but im still eating cake on saterday! He diddnt end up going back he came home the next day and on saterday we were married. LIke I said much love to you im proud of you for being such a good wife !

**spottedeagle** · 02-14-2008, 07:32 PM

I grew up in the Army. My step-dad was in the first Gulf War. I spent 6 years in the Air Force. So I know how it is on both sides of the coin. I sat up with my mom nights when she was worried. And I spent extended periods of time away from family and loved ones.
I have to agree with everyone else, write letters, email, send care packages, etc. When a buddy of mine was over there last year I sent him books, magazines, movies, goodies as often as I could. I used to collect magazines from co-workers, neighbors to send. It doesn't matter what they are, something to read helps keep the mind occupied when you get some down time.

timmy tiger · 02-14-2008, 10:50 PM

I was an army brat too, born in the Military. You are not alone here. There are many who support you and yours. They are right and there are many idiots out there who will try to tell you all kinds of things. Just walk away--they aren't worth the time it would take to pass gas.

Having a little one in your life, wether yours or someone else's is a very important thing. It will remind you exactly what you and he have done and for why, now matter what anyone else tries to tell you.

My prayers are with you and yours.

**Annie Fawn** · 02-15-2008, 07:29 PM

Navy brat here, both dad and brother, Army mom and mother in law. I agree, do NOT watch the news it will just tick you off. Do send things to read, daily letters, pictures ( of you, family members, pets and places that you like to go to together, ect.. One of my cousins used to talk about a picture our Mammaw sent him of his younger brothers being chased by our great aunts geese, and another of her cat stuck in the tree.( she told him that since he was not home, looked like the cat was going to be there for awhile.) He still laughs and said those pics had him and his buddy's laughing. Making them laugh is good for them over there. My dad used to clip out my brothers favorite comic strip out of the paper and send them to him each week.
Keep the letters up beat and know that we are praying for all of you.

**Ndnsoldierboy** · 02-18-2008, 03:22 PM

keep busy...keep in touch...and pray...it helps.

NCheyGirl21 · 02-18-2008, 08:43 PM

Well so long for support from my family. I will be moving outta my dads house and finding a place to rent or either be going back to south carolina. DH doesn't know yet what happended this weekend but I basically have no support from my mother or step dad anymore and my dad is never around for support. My aunt who raised me, thats basically the only support I have as of right now.

timmy tiger · 02-19-2008, 01:04 AM

I'm sorry about that. Some times some of the people that we think are closet to us are the hardest on us. I just went through something with my own sister this weekend and I wound up letting her know exactly what I will do if it happens again.

My son was here tonight and his best friend, they have been friends since they were 4 years old and the young man lived two doors down from us while he was growing up and I used to babysit him sometimes for his mother, is in town for about a week. Then he goes back to CA and from there in 3 weeks he is being deployed to Iraq. I'm worried about this young man, but no differently then I am about everyone who's over there right now. I just know him personally and I know of two others who are in the Navy and a few others. I just pray for everyone's safe return home.

**Ndnsoldierboy** · 02-19-2008, 03:32 PM

and forgot to put in, you might want to be in the "FRG". Family Readiness Group thats the families of the soldiers who support each other while there soldier is deployed.

**Annie Fawn** · 02-29-2008, 05:19 PM

Ndnsoldierboy is right. Please join the military wives group on base for support. They are a group and really do know what your going through, unlike civilian friends. You can also e-mail me if you need a shoulder to lean on. I'll be happy to help if you need someone.

02-14-2008, 10:45 AM	#1 (permalink)
NCheyGirl21 Wife To A Marine Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Michigan Posts: 675 Blog Entries: 2	deployment I haven't been on here in a while and I know a while back I reintroduced myself under the introductions area. Here's the post, Re-Introducing Myself Anyways, my DH just got deployed to Iraq end of last month so we both could really use some prayers. Were both very young and its been a little hard on us and it hasn't even been a month yet. I'm home in Michigan right now with my family so I been gettin alotta support from them which has been great. So if you could that would be really nice!

02-14-2008, 05:39 PM	#2 (permalink)
50cal Natural Born Killer...... Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: In a socialist state..... Posts: 7,133	you know what, stay busy, occupy yourself with anything....find a job, throw yourself into your kids (if you have any).......don't think too much about it.....don't pay attention to the news, that is the most depressing thing you can do.....email him every day.....write him letters, send beef jerky and hot sauce (tapatio).....just remain occupied and supportive....theres gonna be a lot of idiots out there whos gonna say stuff about the war and the troops that will piss you off, don't listen to them...most of them are just talking to hear themselves talk, they know nothgin of what it's like there.....and most of all, know that you have a part of the Marine Corps family here with you.....keep your head up!!!! __________________ "Sweat dries, blood clots, bones heal. Suck it up. Be a Marine"

02-14-2008, 05:44 PM	#3 (permalink)
50cal Natural Born Killer...... Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: In a socialist state..... Posts: 7,133	what unit does he belong to???...what's his MOS????....as you can see from logo, I was 3rd Battalion, 7th Marines.....I was in Lima Co.....did my time in the infantry.....best 5 years of my life.....I also am thinking of going back in as a retread....see what happens, bad thing is I am disabled from the war....so hopefully I can get a waiver or something....I sure do miss it....I really don't care much for civilian life....LOL!!! __________________ "Sweat dries, blood clots, bones heal. Suck it up. Be a Marine"

02-14-2008, 05:46 PM	#4 (permalink)
Josiah PowWows.com Addicts Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Oklahoma City Oklahoma USA Posts: 4,352 Blog Entries: 4	Ditto what 50cal said Write often and everyday You will not believe how much that matters to someone that is deployed And dont worry if they are not exciting and flowing of love Write journals about your day what your doing where you ate Whats on TV Anything and everything But DONT watch the NEWS Its full of crap anyway and will only make you anxious worry Find a Hobby Work Keep busy And before you know it he will be home! __________________

02-14-2008, 07:32 PM	#7 (permalink)
spottedeagle FANMAKR Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Soaring over you Posts: 4,474	I grew up in the Army. My step-dad was in the first Gulf War. I spent 6 years in the Air Force. So I know how it is on both sides of the coin. I sat up with my mom nights when she was worried. And I spent extended periods of time away from family and loved ones. I have to agree with everyone else, write letters, email, send care packages, etc. When a buddy of mine was over there last year I sent him books, magazines, movies, goodies as often as I could. I used to collect magazines from co-workers, neighbors to send. It doesn't matter what they are, something to read helps keep the mind occupied when you get some down time. __________________ The things you are doing today are the traditions of twenty-five years from now. -Daryl Baldwin: Miami

02-14-2008, 06:55 PM	#5 (permalink)
NCheyGirl21 Wife To A Marine Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Michigan Posts: 675 Blog Entries: 2	Thanks ya'll. This has really helped me. I can tell ya one thing since my husband has left I haven't been able to watch the news about having to do with the war. I have been keeping myself busy also, I sell avon from home and I watch my cousin's toddler durin the middle of the week. It has helped keep my mind occuppied. I do know about the idiots though, there has already been 3 people talk s*** to me about the war and my husband. Sometimes it just gets hard on me and specially him because were both in our 20s, but we are managing.

02-14-2008, 07:03 PM	#6 (permalink)
Eagle Plumes Just Bead it! Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: MId-West Posts: 11,492	much love to you and we are proud of our soldiers! to hec with anybody who say's different! I was a Army wife I know how the not watching the news can be, one week before we were married he got a call and he told me last time he got one of those he was gone for a while then I smiled and said ok but im still eating cake on saterday! He diddnt end up going back he came home the next day and on saterday we were married. LIke I said much love to you im proud of you for being such a good wife !

02-14-2008, 10:50 PM	#8 (permalink)
timmy tiger Head Dancer Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: where ever there are babies or children you can find me Posts: 17,412 Blog Entries: 3	I was an army brat too, born in the Military. You are not alone here. There are many who support you and yours. They are right and there are many idiots out there who will try to tell you all kinds of things. Just walk away--they aren't worth the time it would take to pass gas. Having a little one in your life, wether yours or someone else's is a very important thing. It will remind you exactly what you and he have done and for why, now matter what anyone else tries to tell you. My prayers are with you and yours.

02-15-2008, 07:29 PM	#9 (permalink)
Annie Fawn PowWows.com Addicts Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Rico, Ga. Posts: 4,635	Navy brat here, both dad and brother, Army mom and mother in law. I agree, do NOT watch the news it will just tick you off. Do send things to read, daily letters, pictures ( of you, family members, pets and places that you like to go to together, ect.. One of my cousins used to talk about a picture our Mammaw sent him of his younger brothers being chased by our great aunts geese, and another of her cat stuck in the tree.( she told him that since he was not home, looked like the cat was going to be there for awhile.) He still laughs and said those pics had him and his buddy's laughing. Making them laugh is good for them over there. My dad used to clip out my brothers favorite comic strip out of the paper and send them to him each week. Keep the letters up beat and know that we are praying for all of you. __________________ Courage is just fear that has said it's prayers.

02-18-2008, 03:22 PM	#10 (permalink)
Ndnsoldierboy PowWows.com Addicts Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Home of the Brave Posts: 11,640	keep busy...keep in touch...and pray...it helps. __________________ R.I.P. my Bros from the 1st MAR DIV, 3rd MAR DIV, 25th I.D., 10th MTN DIV, who gave their lives in the Cold War, Marines we lost in Korea during Team Spirit '89 & Okinawa '89- bodies never recovered, Panama, 1st Gulf War, Somalia, Afghanistan, Iraq... Semper Fi...

02-18-2008, 08:43 PM	#11 (permalink)
NCheyGirl21 Wife To A Marine Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Michigan Posts: 675 Blog Entries: 2	Well so long for support from my family. I will be moving outta my dads house and finding a place to rent or either be going back to south carolina. DH doesn't know yet what happended this weekend but I basically have no support from my mother or step dad anymore and my dad is never around for support. My aunt who raised me, thats basically the only support I have as of right now.

02-19-2008, 01:04 AM	#12 (permalink)
timmy tiger Head Dancer Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: where ever there are babies or children you can find me Posts: 17,412 Blog Entries: 3	I'm sorry about that. Some times some of the people that we think are closet to us are the hardest on us. I just went through something with my own sister this weekend and I wound up letting her know exactly what I will do if it happens again. My son was here tonight and his best friend, they have been friends since they were 4 years old and the young man lived two doors down from us while he was growing up and I used to babysit him sometimes for his mother, is in town for about a week. Then he goes back to CA and from there in 3 weeks he is being deployed to Iraq. I'm worried about this young man, but no differently then I am about everyone who's over there right now. I just know him personally and I know of two others who are in the Navy and a few others. I just pray for everyone's safe return home.

02-19-2008, 03:32 PM	#13 (permalink)
Ndnsoldierboy PowWows.com Addicts Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Home of the Brave Posts: 11,640	and forgot to put in, you might want to be in the "FRG". Family Readiness Group thats the families of the soldiers who support each other while there soldier is deployed. __________________ R.I.P. my Bros from the 1st MAR DIV, 3rd MAR DIV, 25th I.D., 10th MTN DIV, who gave their lives in the Cold War, Marines we lost in Korea during Team Spirit '89 & Okinawa '89- bodies never recovered, Panama, 1st Gulf War, Somalia, Afghanistan, Iraq... Semper Fi...

02-29-2008, 05:19 PM	#14 (permalink)
Annie Fawn PowWows.com Addicts Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Rico, Ga. Posts: 4,635	Ndnsoldierboy is right. Please join the military wives group on base for support. They are a group and really do know what your going through, unlike civilian friends. You can also e-mail me if you need a shoulder to lean on. I'll be happy to help if you need someone. __________________ Courage is just fear that has said it's prayers.