Zambo

Well my friend is half white-half Dine/Comanche/Apache/Cherokee, really he looks to most folks like a blue-eyed white dude with a very good tan, anyway I was talking to him one day and asked if he would try to enroll and join the Navajo nation.
He told me no and said that he didn't want to he wasn't a indian and didn't care just as few days ago he said that the culture and costoms everything is weird to him, this was confusing to me because I acknowledge every single group I am no matter how small little I claim
black/white/NDN/Creole/hispanic and wear it as a badge but he could care less. I finally got him a book called The References of South-West Indians I am trying to get him to read more books get in contact with his grandmother who by what I heard tried to keep tradition (she even made him two cradleboards).

Anywho I want to know what I can do, or what books I should get to get him into his culture

kgirl7

Not to be a downer or anything, but you're not gonna accomplish with books what his parents failed to teach him over the course of his entire lifetime. And if his parents did teach him pride in who is then it sounds like he's made a clear decision to move away from that path.

I would say pull back a little because the more you push the more he's gonna put up a wall against it. Also why do you think he should enroll Navajo, instead of Comanche or Apache or Creek? That's a decision he and his family need to make.

Your intentions are good, they are, but i don't think there's much you can do. He needs all that pushing to come from his family members.

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anishinabealltheway

Kgirl is right you can't force anyone to accept the culture if there parents taught them to be ashamed of it. This kind of thing is all too common. The only thing that we can do about it is to raise our children to be proud of what we are. There is a lot to be proud of.

Ego-hut-key

You know what I am an example of this case, My Best friend Cody told me that I should start dancing and enroll into Mohawk nation I am white and that was my choice of not enrolling I am now an acomplished grass dancer just not enrolled in Mohawk nation, so get him out there and take him to some good pow-wows and gatherings let him live the culture and make sure he has indian fry bread and im sure he will come around and what to join in all the fun and good times, I hope this helps,
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crazywolf

Boohoo niji,

I know someone also, who is part cherokee. I tried for a few years to get him to come to a pow wow. Its not something that he really wants to do. He acknowledges his heritage, but I guess he doesnt see any advantage in going that route, doesnt seem to fit into his lifestyle. His decision has nothing to do with his relationship with either of his parents or anything like that, was his choice.

The point is, what we do, the way and how does not work for everyone. I met a couple of Anishinaabeks over the weekend, they are vendors, and neither one of them dance nor do pow wow songs. But they are pretty high in traditions. On the flip side I know people that only know the pow wow life, only dance in competitions and do nothing with tradition.

Then there are people that want nothing to do with any part of it. I use the word people because it applies to everyone, every race creed and color.

you want to help your friend? Pray for him.

Derek

Blackbear

I know alot of you are gonna look at me cross eyed for saying this, but.... does this person have the right to identify as he wishes? WHY does he have to choose his native side? If he did'nt grow up being raised with the culture and does'nt "feel it in his heart", then why can't he?

Seriously, at least he is'nt saying, oh hey, I should go register cause then I can legally have indian feathers and maybe get some money and free college out of this. You certainly don't want to turn him into an "instant indian" where he starts annoying people because then he suddenly has read a few books and "knows more than his relatives on the reservation know". I mean, how many times have we heard that line? Or get so gung ho that he starts "acting indian" because suddenly one day he's decided he's proud of it... right?

Lord knows he'll get called wannabe and whatever else anyhow for not looking indian, and if he was'nt raised in it then he's not going to culturally be one, so why "convince" him to be one?

One day he might take more interest in it all by himself without anyone's pushing or "feeling sorry for him". So let him be who he wants to be. He descends from both and has every right to live one way or another if he so chooses.

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Zambo

Oh I agree but he dosen't even care, its weird every single person at my school who is NDN (all 4 or 5 out of 1000) either don't care,don't want to know, or don't think about it. I don't have a problem not considering himself NDN or even biracial, but he needs to acknkowledge his roots, that is what truly pisses me off, and i think about this alot why am I someone who is a "waterblood" caring alot on my Native bloodline while thoughs who are 1/2 and 1/4 don't care

OLChemist

At the risk of being rather blunt, being able to "pass" has great advantages. We who are fair can structure our identity as we want, without the downside of falling within a phenotype treated by distrust or dislike by dominant culture. We don't walk around getting the "get away from me you dirty Indian" look, or being stopped for driving in the wrong part of town, or having the salesperson follow us through the store. We experience at least superficial inclusion from the institutions of larger society, so we concentrate on gaining a similar level on inclusion and participation within Native society.

It is quite understandable that those, who by virtue of phenotype do not have the option of escaping prejudice, might not wish to engage in activities that increase their feeling of separation.

WhoMe

BB,

Yeah the world needs more "blue-eyed white dudes" *L

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Zambo

As you can notice Im not pale I get all those looks and when I drive most likely will be stopped and on many a time been followed by a salesmen. i dont pass but I can understand a person passing for white, many of my family have passed for white since the beginning of our history.Oh would bring him to a powwow be good

OLChemist

Actually, since my browser is opting not to display avtars or photos in profiles today, I'm not noticing much of anything, LOL.

But, my apologies. My "we" was intended to be a more generic reference to a group of fair mixed-bloods of which I consider myself to be a part. I meant no offense.

Blackbear

Well I'm a part of that "we" and I agree. To pass is easier simply because the majority of the world will not stereotype us simply by looks. But that's not what I was getting at really. I'm just..WHY? Why do we HAVE to pick our native side, and be all interested? Is it a cardinal sin? We're gonna get crap from either side regardless if we do or don't follow tradition and identify so in a way, what does it matter ?

You have your life, your interests and your own pride in who you are and no one faults you for having all that right?

Personally I do feel it's sad that he does not want to know and identify with his dine side as well, but I also realize that it's really only becuase I do know and identify my native side and grew up with it. If I had'nt grown up with it, I'd probably not give a rats azz one way or another.

Like I said, someday dude's gonna wanna know more about it and probably have an appreciation for it.

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