KasperGirl

wow... there is a LOT of talk about Virginity.

sheesh my first time, I didn't know what was going on.

I was molested at a young age and other things. I grew up with old men grabbing me and didn't know any better. I was not taught the truth about sex, just that it was dirty, for some reason or other I was told I was asking for it and always got in trouble for letting old men touch me.
When I was 13 a boy tried to have sex with me but I made him stop, I didn't know it was sex.
At 14 I was 'almost' raped. to this day I am happy I had a pant that was hard to take off. oh and plus the idiot was drunk and passed out in my mom's room. To this day my mom thinks he was my first.
At 17 I was almost raped again.... he was a friend, telling everyone I was his woman (I was really his sister's friend) out of nowhere he attacked me. Thru the years of dealing with dirty old men, boys, whatever... I had taken Karate an fought my way out of it (all through high school I was attacked a few times)
I never dated in school but I meant someone durning summer and we fell in love and I finally had my first love making experience.....of course it had to mature. too bad he never did.
We were married (with no paper) for 11 years ... again raped, I failed.

Now I am remarried (his parents wanted paper) and loving it.
I am safe, finally happy, I still have my sanity and pride.
but I guess it is true with once you are raped it follows you and keeps on happening.......because I attract all these losers.

I voted for wait for marriage---keep them legs closed

billyjoejimbob

Only with someone you love.

Besides, the first time is so awkward...who wants a stranger knowning that about you!!!

We laugh all the time about that first time.

Kids today dont understand responsibility and priorities. At least in my area. I know some people who think they are mature enough to have a kid but not ready to get married ?!?!?! Maybe Im old fashioned but having a mother AND father, husband AND wife, for your kid is very important. And it is all sex sex sex. Who did who, who did it without a condom, who is bad in bed. It makes me crazy and that is one of the reasons I cant stand kids today. (And by kids I mean 15-25 year olds)

KasperGirl

LOL

my son says when girls act silly in a group they all look like they need to go to the restroom

that is from a 14 year old

Soohkiisimsstaan

I voted for 'if you're in love' but then again some folks fall in love as frequently as changing their underwear... I would hope for some level of committment before jumping in the sack, but that's one of those "do as I say, not as I do"--guilty as charged...anyway...I think it is good to have a 'test-drive' in any case. My ex and I were 18 when we married (divorced 3 years later). I found out the hard way (no pun intended) that he couldn't "get it up to get it in". That's a pretty awful thing to deal with... especially when you are so young and 'in love'. Love does not conquer all...and there was no viagra around at the time........

a_buck

I don't think waiting for marriage is soooo important. When the fact of the matter is jumping the gun too soon. If young adults are mature enough to handle the responsibility of all cause and effects of having sex, then who's to say they should or shouldn't. I don't think there is a certain age to say when one is ready or not, but when the time comes one should realize the moment. If they're ready...go ahead, if not...wait. :dancing45

bahnisiain

i feel sex is important in any LONG term relationship, whether if that is in a marriage situation or live in type deal.

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ladybeadworker

up until recently i thought this way, then i found out that my very young cousin was already sexually active. i thought about it for a while then i realized that she made her own decision, however silly that it seems to other people.

the boy that she was with is just as bad, he is her same age. i want to bring up both of them because i think that it is unfair to put the load on females, when males do it too.(obviously)
so now, for her i guess she did what she wanted.
for me though i just couldnt go there at the age that she is, i was still interested in cartoons and video games at that age.

Gache

He!! I dont feel half the people on powwows.com are mature enough to be having sex. Too many babies being born to babies these days.

Jibby™

How can you promote that? Seems to me like THAT is the only virginty most of us have left :rofl2:

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bl@ckfoothoney

whas a pinto.....''lol

CactusButt

An old ugly Car! very old and very oogly! :rofl2:

blackfoot_goddess

I think that it is best to wait, but that is not an easy thing to do. However if one chooses to have sex before marriage they better be careful cuz they could be playin with fire!! People can fool ya :flaming:

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ndn_butterfly

As for "kids today" not understanding responsibility and priorities, that is true in a lot of cases, but not in my case. I'm 20 yrs old, and I've only loves 1 other person before my boyfriend now, and I didn't even sleep with him (my 1st love that is). My boyfriend (now) and I waited 9 months before even doing the deed:p. I fully understand my responsibilities and priorities. Yes having kids is on my list, but its not my #1 priority. I'm 20, I'm still young, and still in school. I'd rather finish school first and make a life for myself before I can even consider bringing a little one in this world.

Sorry not trying to start an argument or anything, just saying what I feel, and that "kids today" statement doesn't go for everyone that are in the age range 15-25.
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bl@ckfoothoney

sex is a killer if u dont protect ur self member this is a dangerous world we r livin in

gaonseh

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I nearly choaked to death laughing.... Too funny!!! :rofl2: :rofl2: Moral of the story: Try before you Buy...