Guys and Gals - "just friends"

superndngyrl · 01-06-2003, 01:50 PM

OK when I was in CA last week I was listening to this talk show. This guy Tom Lakener or something says that (a male perspective) Men and Women can't be just friends. He says that a man is a woman's friend because he is attracted to her and hopes to some day get in her pants. And a woman makes a guy her friend cuz he's her -- I forget how he stated it -- like her fire extinguisher. You know, break glass in case of emergency kind of thing...

So what is your view on this?

I always thought that women and men can be friends but as I get older and wiser (less of a gyrl) then I am leaning more towards the RAdio guy's opinion...

elviseagle · 01-06-2003, 01:56 PM

I see no reason why they can't be friends - it just takes a mature mind :D or atleast a mind

buckskin pantyhose · 01-06-2003, 02:00 PM

I truly believe that guys & gals can be FRIENDS! I'm the kinda gal that has mostly guy friends (& yes! we're STRICTLY FRIENDS).

YEA, i agree w/the fella sayin' that guys are ultimately attracted to the girl & will probably jump at the opportunity to "get in her pants" if it was ever presented but are you suprised?? I mean that's just men!

I talk w/a lot of my guy friends about these kinda thangs & it's true, men are definitely out to satisfy "ol' one eye" but who's to say that we can't be just friends???

I gotta disagree w/the fire extinguisher thang tho, i wouldn't cross that line w/any of my friends. If i was attracted to them or wanted something more than thier friendship, then they probably wouldn't be my "friend" in the first place........i would've thrown my agressive ball in their court & held down the full court press!!! Hahaha...aye! But for real, i've always gotten along better w/da fella's, my closest friends are definitely my bros!

~Buckskinz

Coyot_In_The_House · 01-06-2003, 02:05 PM

Gotta Disagree Super Gal.....

Sure Males and Females are attracted to each other, but ya gotta ease up on the instinct thing....

01-06-2003, 02:09 PM

i think guy and gal could be just friends.

superndngyrl · 01-06-2003, 02:14 PM

what do u mean ease up on the instinct thing?
hmm...

i said i'm starting to agree bcuz of personal experience... I disagree w/the woman - fire extinguisher thing. Cuz i definitely make friends w/people to just chill with and shoot the ****.

I was mostly just curious about how guys would answer this thread, thats all.
;)

Singing Eagle · 01-06-2003, 02:15 PM

I definately believe that men and women can be just friends - I have many male friends and yes I am very close with their wives too. I think that as we mature *read - Get OLD!!* we can get beyond those twitches of attraction or that "on the prowl" instinct and be friends. I think it helps and makes it easier with couples.

01-06-2003, 02:16 PM

but.. most of the guy friend in up dating so.....:D but i also believe that you need friendship before dating anyone

superndngyrl · 01-06-2003, 02:19 PM

thats true... friendship... makes a better bond between people...

~danielle~ · 01-06-2003, 02:40 PM

Woman believe in the whole friendship thing. Men are always thinking of you know what.
I had a "friend" and 5 years later he tells me about how he felt that whole time. I was shocked and now our friendship is awkward. It just depends, I guess.

nah · 01-06-2003, 02:51 PM

I somewhat believe that men and women can be friends. Sometimes, it's a good thing then other times it doesn't work. Like I use to have this friend some what of a friend but things got to serious and we ended up dating. It didn't work and know we don't even talk.............

**Jinglin Chica** · 01-06-2003, 03:16 PM

I also believe that men and women can be friends... I have a lot of guy friends, one of them is also my best friend
:D

moose man · 01-06-2003, 05:24 PM

yes men and women can be friends. I still hang out with some old gal's from school.we even go out to moveies some times but since I became both parents I slowed down and see them at powwows

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01-06-2003, 01:50 PM	#1 (permalink)
superndngyrl two little indians Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: in front of the computer Posts: 4,232	Guys and Gals - "just friends" OK when I was in CA last week I was listening to this talk show. This guy Tom Lakener or something says that (a male perspective) Men and Women can't be just friends. He says that a man is a woman's friend because he is attracted to her and hopes to some day get in her pants. And a woman makes a guy her friend cuz he's her -- I forget how he stated it -- like her fire extinguisher. You know, break glass in case of emergency kind of thing... So what is your view on this? I always thought that women and men can be friends but as I get older and wiser (less of a gyrl) then I am leaning more towards the RAdio guy's opinion... __________________ The only time its too late to start dancing is when you're dead.

01-06-2003, 02:00 PM	#3 (permalink)
buckskin pantyhose Bux Back At'cha! Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: 3rd Rock from the Sun Posts: 962	OF COURSE!!! I truly believe that guys & gals can be FRIENDS! I'm the kinda gal that has mostly guy friends (& yes! we're STRICTLY FRIENDS). YEA, i agree w/the fella sayin' that guys are ultimately attracted to the girl & will probably jump at the opportunity to "get in her pants" if it was ever presented but are you suprised?? I mean that's just men! I talk w/a lot of my guy friends about these kinda thangs & it's true, men are definitely out to satisfy "ol' one eye" but who's to say that we can't be just friends??? I gotta disagree w/the fire extinguisher thang tho, i wouldn't cross that line w/any of my friends. If i was attracted to them or wanted something more than thier friendship, then they probably wouldn't be my "friend" in the first place........i would've thrown my agressive ball in their court & held down the full court press!!! Hahaha...aye! But for real, i've always gotten along better w/da fella's, my closest friends are definitely my bros! ~Buckskinz __________________ *BE EASY*

01-06-2003, 02:05 PM	#4 (permalink)
Coyot_In_The_House NO STALKERS! GET A LIFE? Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 3,871	What.... Gotta Disagree Super Gal..... Sure Males and Females are attracted to each other, but ya gotta ease up on the instinct thing....

01-06-2003, 02:14 PM	#6 (permalink)
superndngyrl two little indians Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: in front of the computer Posts: 4,232	what do u mean ease up on the instinct thing? hmm... i said i'm starting to agree bcuz of personal experience... I disagree w/the woman - fire extinguisher thing. Cuz i definitely make friends w/people to just chill with and shoot the ***. I was mostly just curious about how guys would answer this thread, thats all. ;) __________________ The only time its too* late to start dancing is when you're dead.

01-06-2003, 01:56 PM	#2 (permalink)
elviseagle Senior Dancer Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Minnesota Posts: 655	I see no reason why they can't be friends - it just takes a mature mind :D or atleast a mind

01-06-2003, 02:09 PM	#5 (permalink)
lonewolfcrow Guest Posts: n/a	i think guy and gal could be just friends.

01-06-2003, 02:15 PM	#7 (permalink)
Singing Eagle An URBAN NDN Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Canada eh! Posts: 2,439	I definately believe that men and women can be just friends - I have many male friends and yes I am very close with their wives too. I think that as we mature read - Get OLD!! we can get beyond those twitches of attraction or that "on the prowl" instinct and be friends. I think it helps and makes it easier with couples.

01-06-2003, 02:16 PM	#8 (permalink)
lonewolfcrow Guest Posts: n/a	but.. most of the guy friend in up dating so.....:D but i also believe that you need friendship before dating anyone

01-06-2003, 02:19 PM	#9 (permalink)
superndngyrl two little indians Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: in front of the computer Posts: 4,232	thats true... friendship... makes a better bond between people... __________________ The only time its too late to start dancing is when you're dead.

01-06-2003, 02:40 PM	#10 (permalink)
~danielle~ Teen Dancer Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Mt. Plez Posts: 489	Woman believe in the whole friendship thing. Men are always thinking of you know what. I had a "friend" and 5 years later he tells me about how he felt that whole time. I was shocked and now our friendship is awkward. It just depends, I guess.

01-06-2003, 02:51 PM	#11 (permalink)
nah Head Dancer Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: On the road to a Powwow near UUUUU!!!! Posts: 3,797	LOL* LOL* LOL* I somewhat believe that men and women can be friends. Sometimes, it's a good thing then other times it doesn't work. Like I use to have this friend some what of a friend but things got to serious and we ended up dating. It didn't work and know we don't even talk............. __________________ :flaming: Nah

01-06-2003, 03:16 PM	#12 (permalink)
Jinglin Chica PowWows.com Addicts Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Morley, AB Posts: 15,855	I also believe that men and women can be friends... I have a lot of guy friends, one of them is also my best friend :D __________________ Hockey is soul food.

01-06-2003, 05:24 PM	#13 (permalink)
moose man Senior Dancer Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: liveing in hayward wiscon Posts: 558	yes men and women can be friends. I still hang out with some old gal's from school.we even go out to moveies some times but since I became both parents I slowed down and see them at powwows

01-06-2003, 05:39 PM	#14 (permalink)
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